Most often divorced dads look at child custody visitation with mixed emotions. They love spending time with their children but they know the times together are little and an whole day is not nearly sufficient time. Visitation is so much dissimilar than living in the same house and having unlimited time to spend playing and talking with your kids.
I know visitation is not easy for dads going through this same situation so I compiled a list of tips that may help in easing some of the tension.
How To Win Custody For Fathers
One step at a time
It is best not to rush into mental you will be able to spend a lot of time with your kids... At least not in the beginning. It will probably not happen that way, so do not expect too much too early. Most likely things will be awkward at first, but in time this awkwardness will disappear. Just give it a little time for you and your kids to gel. Early on... Patience is precisely important.
Make plans for the day
It is best if you plan ahead so that the activities with the children are enjoyable and time well spent. Remember, this as your weekend with the kids so planning ahead helps to make in a special time for all. You might plan on taking them to the park or ball game or maybe camping. It is nice to comprise an outdoor event that every person can enjoy.
You might help your kids learn a new sport or best understand an existing activity that only a father can appreciate. Realize, this is your time with the children but it is little time. So use it wisely.
Be flexible
In some cases your kids may have already planned out their day with you so you will have to be open and flexible. Some of the tension that surrounds the father and their children on these scheduled visitations can be eliminated by letting the kids decree on some activities. This is also a great way to get to know the likes and dislikes of your children.
Since you are the father, other great event would be to ask them over to your house for the weekend. Make them feel at home, but be sensitive to the fact that it may be awkward and strange to them because of the dissimilar surroundings as compared to where they are living. Be sure not to give them a new set of rules all at once. That could be confusing. Right now it is most foremost to just focus on their needs while they are with you.
May not all the time be this easy
Keep in mind that there may come a day when the kids come to an age where they resist looking you on visitation day. Or maybe they had rather just hang out with their friends... Or maybe they do not like the activities you have planned for the weekend. It could even be that they dislike the woman you are with. So know matter what the reason, just ease up. Time will take its toll and all things will be back to normal. Sometimes it is not easy... But it is all part of the process. Most all divorced families go through these types of situations when it comes to visitations with their father. As your children age, things will mellow out.
Just let them know that you understand and that you will all the time be there for them. Tell them how much you love them. Time will heal all wounds and as they grow older they will understand.
Remember, you are a divorced dad but still the father of your children. And just because you are not a husband anymore, again you are still the father of your children.
Let your children know that things may not have worked out with you and their mother, but your association with them is still as strong as ever and that will never change. Be sure they understand that you have nothing but unconditional love for them. Let them know that no matter what happens... You are still their father. Be sure they understand you will all the time be there when they need you and you will supply retain in all that life has to offer.
Even though you may live far apart now or even in the future, just let them know they will all the time have your unconditional love and support.
Child Custody Visitation Tips For Divorced DadsSee Also : How to win Custody (for Men & Women)
